via kevin-anthony: It’s dawned on me, today more...

via kevin-anthony:

It’s dawned on me, today more than ever, people’s obsession with labels on relationships.

People are so focused on being in a relationship. They want a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife; that definite title. A lot of people think that those labels are what make the love between the two people. That’s not the case. You don’t have to make anything official to be madly in love with someone. You don’t need a ring on your finger, or a piece of paper to say that you are going to be with that one person for the rest of your life. Don’t get me wrong. I’m a believer in the whole white wedding, bouquet, walking down the isle to the woman that I love thing, but at the same time, what does all of the really mean? What does some stupid status change on Facebook really mean? It’s there to satisfy the need to publicize things. It’s there to shut up those who ask “well, if you love each other, why aren’t you together?” To be totally honest as well, whether you are in a relationship, married, or simply share a love with someone, nothing guarantees that your other won’t leave you. Nothing in this world; nothing you say or do can stop that person from leaving you alone. The only aspect that keeps him/her from leaving, is his/her own thoughts and actions. We don’t control other people. Other people don’t control us. Free will is the main idea.

People can be in a relationship or marriage for years, but randomly one day, leave. They will leave without notice, nothing said. They will leave when things are good or if things are bad. Nothing stops people from leaving. So this makes being in a relationship totally counter productive, in a sense.

I really don’t knock relationships. I think that they are great. Hell, I love being in a relationship with someone that I adore. But at the same time, labels are labels. The title of “boyfriend/girlfriend” are just names. Those things don’t make the love between 2 people more, or less. Just because 2 people aren’t “together” doesn’t mean that they both don’t love each other. It’s a hard thing to come into terms with. Hell, it’s taken me this long to realize that labels don’t equal love. But now I really do see that labels are just words. Labels are words to help fill voids that aren’t even really there.

I think that it has to do with people’s obsession with perfection. How everything has to be perfect and set in stone. People, including myself, are so scared of others leaving. Lets face it, no one really wants to be alone in the world. At the end of those long days at work, we would like to come home to someone that cares for us (whether that be a boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband or someone that your not “with”). Everyone wants to feel wanted. The perfect fairy tale ending where he/she is mine and I’m his/hers doesn’t always exist and in this day and age isn’t even right for everyone.

Another thing that has dawned on me is that I really do believe in fate and free will, at the same time. That is also extremely counterproductive, but I believe in both. I think that people have the right to leave if and when they want to, but I also believe that if something is meant to be, in the end, it will be. I confuse myself all of the time. I guess it’s my wishful thinking. I think that it’s me, struggling to make the best of things; it’s me trying my hardest to focus on the light in the situation and not the dark.